Are you stuck in the Perfectionism Trap ?

 

Oh God! today not a single thing is happening as decided. Everything is incomplete, Whatever done is just OK... not up to the mark. I just want to do things perfectly and I haven't been able to do anything. Half day has passed and I am so bored and frustrated. I feel like doing nothing. Now I don't see any point in doing things today. Whole day is wasted. I need a break. Let me refresh my mind, lets check social media. And remaining time is spent in watching videos on social sites. 

Does your story seems similar to this one ? If yes, then my dear friend, you are also a victim of perfectionism. This is the rude life that I was living wanting to be perfect all the time. 

Yes, I was also sailing in the same boat. But before some days, my little one has cleared my delusion. It was an incident before 3-4 months. Because of small mistakes that I did in a day, I was upset and disappointingly sat down in the window blaming myself. After 5-10 min my little one who is in kindergarten came there with a drawing book and pencil and asked me to draw cow's picture. I drew a picture of a little cow on one page and ask him to draw a similar one. 

Initially he tried to draw it on another page but that came out to be very different. After 4-5 tryouts he was able to draw a picture which somewhat looks like the reference one. After seeing this a broad smile came on his face, he gently write his name on the top left side and draw a couple of stars below the picture and put it on wall. 

Watching this incident as a third person I felt amazing. The picture he drew was not exactly same like the reference one but it was good enough and that made him so happy. Suddenly a thought came to my mind, why am I running behind perfection? and it made me change my perspective about everything. 

There is nothing like perfect life, perfect job, perfect career, perfect life partner in this world. When we accept this reality then only we get the beautiful experiences in life. If certain thing is not 100% up to the mark then also its OK. Its still great, so mark it as done and move to next task. 

Before this, I was expecting that every little thing in a day should happen perfectly and if it doesn't go that way, I was upset. Later on I didn't even take efforts to complete the remaining tasks in a day. But when I learn to accept the imperfections and move forward, I feel more productive, happy and contented. What if half day went bad, still half is in my hand and I learnt to enjoy it. 

Instead of waiting for new day always, I learned to start anytime. Every moment is new and it will never come in our life back again. So, do the best that we can at that moment and go ahead. 

At the end of the day, If we did the things to our best ability then that's good enough. Isn't It ??

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