What is your self Worth?

Suddenly she bursts into tears and was not ready to stop.We all got blank and had no idea what to do. We asked her many times what happened? But she was not able to speak up. At last we waited for her to settle down and then tried to talk with her.

It happened before couple of months. It was Adira's Birthday. Our group has decided to host a birthday party for her. As per the plan we all met in the evening that day and decorated her house with balloons and candles before she came back from office. When she opened the door, we surprised her with cake and gift. She did seems a pleasantly shocked on our surprise but somewhere I was feeling like birthday girl is not happy from heart. She was pretending to be happy with fake smile. Celebration was going on with music, dance, snacks and everybody was enjoying the party. But Adira was standing alone in a corner, looking her mobile. Unhappiness in her eyes made me uncomfortable and I asked her quietly, 'What happen? Are you OK?'. She looked at me for sometime and was standing still for next couple of minutes. In no-time, tears welled up in her eyes and she started crying heavily. Party was stopped. Everybody gather around us, puzzled and curious to know about what happened..

After settling down a little bit she said, "No I'm not OK. I'm feeling very low in my life. Nothing is going as expected. Even though I'm putting 100% efforts from my side, returns are not as expected or not even OK-OK. I'm feeling inferiority complex about myself and now this is not tolerable to me".

We tried to console her. Sharanya said, "It's OK. It's a phase in life. All days are not same. Have patience. You will surely get some solution. Take a break for some days. Refresh yourself and then try to catch up for the things".

But Samrat seems to be disagreed with this conversation. He came forward, sat near Adira, hold her hand and asked her, "Adira, shall I ask you something? What is your self worth? Where do you rate yourself?". She got confused with his reaction and said, "How does self worth relates here? I always try to do everything properly from my side. Do the work by putting 100% efforts, listens to others suggestions as well and try to implement them whenever possible. I think this is sufficient."

Samrat said, "It's related here Adira. I think your self-worth is very low. I know you from many days. I have worked with you and I feel that your self worth is very low. Self worth means how good you feel about yourself. How much importance you give to yourself. In life everything is dependent on this. The way you talk, walk, present yourself in front of others. The amount of respect you give to yourself, others will also respect you that much only. So don't let others decide your value. You do it yourself. Be firm on your opinion. It you didn't like something then talk about it. let others know it. Take care of your self-esteem.

After a silence of couple of minutes Samrat again goes on, "Do you remember the incident of last week. You were presenting your idea about the new product. But when others started giving you suggestions, you just skip your whole idea. You must have think of something before preparing that model right? Then why you just say 'YES' to everything that others suggested. Accept the ones that you think are correct at that time and ignore others.

If every-time you measured your life with others point of views, accepted blindly what others are telling about yourself then its like living your life from their eyes, Isn't it?. If somebody doesn't understand your worth then also it didn't get decreased because of their opinion. The people who doubt you, judge you are not worth of your time, instead be with the ones who encourages you, helps you in growing up in your life. Self worth is very important for your own happiness. If you didn't feel good about your-self you will not feel good about anything else in life".

On listening to these words from Samrat, Adira understood her mistake and she was thankful to him for this. Today after a long time a true smile was visible on her face😊.